
Blessed are the
Happy(?)
"But I do not want you to be ignorant,
brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you
sorrow as others who have no hope."-Paul, To the Thessalonians
(1.4.13)
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who
mourn."-Paul, To the Romans (12.15)
I
read an excellent article written by Sharon Begley entitled
Happiness: Enough Already. The writer examines the modern
premise that sadness is being considered a mental disorder.
She states, "What society once viewed as an appropriate
reaction to failed hopes and dashed dreams, it now regards
as a psychiatric illness." She believes that a "happiness
industry" exists in our culture evidenced by hundreds
of self-help books, magazine articles, life coaches, motivational
speakers, pharmaceutical ads, etc.
"Although some 85 percent of Americans say they're pretty
happy," she writes, "the happiness industry sends
the insistent message that moderate levels of well-being aren't
enough: not only can we all be happier, but we practically
have a duty to be so. What was once considered normal sadness
is something to be smothered, even shunned."
Sadness, remorse, guilt, grief, and other negative emotions
have been taboo for some time, even in church. The warnings
in Scripture that evil behavior has negative, eternal consequences
are also out of vogue. I remember when I was preaching on
the Devil and Hell last fall. Several articles I read talked
about how big-time preachers were avoiding those topics all
together. There was no room in the church for repentance,
sin, accountability, or anything else that might detract from
people's happiness.
This present thinking about the requirement of ever-present
extreme happiness is one reason Christians need to understand
what biblical joy is. For many in the church, joy is equal
to happiness. One brother once grew very upset with me when
I said that happiness was not part of God's obligation to
us. He thought I was saying Christians should run around with
mopey faces all the time.
In the Scriptures above and several others, it is clear that
life entails a certain amount of sorrow and mourning. Jesus
said that in this world we would have trouble. Sometimes we
create it. Sometimes we suffer the creations of others. However,
our grieving, sorrow, and mourning are tempered by joy. Joy
is an attitude, a way of looking at things. Joy is a filter
or a particular lens. It is shaped by an understanding or
belief that Jesus has overcome the world, the world is not
the way it was meant to be but will soon become what it was
meant to be, and that we are a part of the new world. There
are other things that help form joy, but those are the Big
Three.
In the several studies the author mentioned, researchers have
found that the people who are completely happy (nine or ten
on a scale of 1-10) were actually less successful than people
who typically scored an eight. It seems as though a certain
amount of unhappiness inspires great thinking, great movements,
and great works. Perhaps a certain amount of unhappiness inspires
great faith as well.
Unhappiness and happiness depends partially upon what happens
and partially on what you think about what happened. Joy can
keep you from experiencing a lot of unhappiness, but still
works even when you are unhappy. But unhappiness is not a
mental disease, something to be medicated, or something to
be shunned. Like pain, unhappiness tells us something is wrong.
It may be telling us that we need to change our thinking,
attitudes, expectations, or behavior. It may also be telling
us that we're human, and we get sad when we experience the
fallenness of our world.
~Shawn